ARE WE ALL IN DENIAL?
STRESS, LOSS & LIFE EVENTS – ARE WE TRUE TO OURSELVES?
Recently I had a call many of us dread ever receiving, one telling me that my father had suffered a heart attack and had been admitted to hospital. As I rushed off to the hospital thoughts of how shaken my father must have been, imagining how scared he must have felt to have experienced something like that. In reality, when I arrived he was busy telling us all how the Doctors were ‘overreacting’ and how he couldn’t understand why they had not let him straight home again after getting everything under control. From playing down the ‘mildness’ of the attack to complaining about medication, I was amazed (and from a relative’s perspective bemused) by the level of denial and unwillingness to accept the seriousness of his condition and what had happened to him.
This experience has got me thinking about life in general and the way in which difficult events can force us to ‘bury our head in the sand’ and hope somehow that things will work out on their own if we just ignore or downplay them. Unfortunately it would seem that society often demands such stoic behaviour and the opportunities to truly explore our feelings and work through the impact events in life can have on us in a safe and non-judgemental environment are few and far between.
I know it’s at times like this I’m thankful that I continue to see my own counsellor (both for professional and personal development) and will definitely use the time to help me ‘recharge the batteries’ after such an emotional and unexpected event. Ready to face the next challenge life may bring.
For more information about how counselling can help you with stress, loss or life changes please feel free to contact me via my website: www.counsellortony.co.uk